KNOWLEDGE SHEET BY SRI SRI RAVI SHANKAR
POSTED ON: WEDNESDAY, JULY 29, 2026
The Perfect Relationship
If you know how to row a boat, you can row any boat.
But if you don’t know how to row, changing boats isn’t going to help.
Similarly, changing a relationship does not solve the
issue. Sooner or later, you will be in the same situation in any other
relationship.
Most people look elsewhere for a perfect relationship,
but few look within themselves; at the place from where we relate. What is your
relationship with yourself? Who are you to yourself?
People think, ‘Oh, I’m single. I’m so bored being by
myself. I need a companion. I need a relationship.’ If you are so bored by your
own company, think how much more boring you must be for someone else. And two
people bored with themselves getting together, will completely bore each other!
If your relationship is based on personal need it may
not last that long. Once the need is fulfilled, on a physical or on an
emotional level, the mind will look for something else and go somewhere else.
If your relationship is from a level of sharing, then it can last longer.
When you’re looking for security, love, and comfort
from your partner, you become weak. When you are weak, all the negative
emotions come up and you become demanding. Demand destroys love. If we just
know this one thing, we can save our love from getting rotten.
It’s the limited awareness of yourself and the limited
experience of love that encapsulates you in a tiny compartment where you start
suffocating. We can’t even handle the love we are asking for because we have
never probed into the depth of our own mind; our own consciousness.
II JAI GURUDEV II
KNOWLEDGE SHEET BY SRI SRI RAVI SHANKAR
POSTED ON: WEDNESDAY, JULY 29, 2026
The Perfect Relationship
If you know how to row a boat, you can row any boat.
But if you don’t know how to row, changing boats isn’t going to help.
Similarly, changing a relationship does not solve the
issue. Sooner or later, you will be in the same situation in any other
relationship.
Most people look elsewhere for a perfect relationship,
but few look within themselves; at the place from where we relate. What is your
relationship with yourself? Who are you to yourself?
People think, ‘Oh, I’m single. I’m so bored being by
myself. I need a companion. I need a relationship.’ If you are so bored by your
own company, think how much more boring you must be for someone else. And two
people bored with themselves getting together, will completely bore each other!
If your relationship is based on personal need it may
not last that long. Once the need is fulfilled, on a physical or on an
emotional level, the mind will look for something else and go somewhere else.
If your relationship is from a level of sharing, then it can last longer.
When you’re looking for security, love, and comfort
from your partner, you become weak. When you are weak, all the negative
emotions come up and you become demanding. Demand destroys love. If we just
know this one thing, we can save our love from getting rotten.
It’s the limited awareness of yourself and the limited
experience of love that encapsulates you in a tiny compartment where you start
suffocating. We can’t even handle the love we are asking for because we have
never probed into the depth of our own mind; our own consciousness.
II JAI GURUDEV II
