Friday, 2 August 2013
Knowledge Sheets: Improving Family Ties
Knowledge Sheets: Improving Family Ties: To improve family ties, don’t try to improve it. Don’t try to get over the misunderstanding. If there is a misunderstanding, just overl...
Knowledge Sheet
Improving Family Ties
To
improve family ties, don’t try to improve it. Don’t try to get over the
misunderstanding. If there is a misunderstanding, just overlook that.Educate and ignore. Move forward. Don’t do postmortem, i.e., sit and dig, ‘Why did you say that?’, ‘You don’t love me’, all this garbage is such a waste of time. We dwell into so much emotional garbage. We should throw them all out and have bubbling enthusiasm. You should move with enthusiasm.
If someone lacks enthusiasm, push them into enthusiasm, and do not go on complaining or asking for explanation from people.
To improve family relations you need two things - No Explanations and No Complaints. That’s it. Got it?
Asking explanation from others is a foolish thing. And explaining to others thinking they would understand is another foolish thing. It doesn’t work both ways.
The best is to just move forward.
|| Jai Guru Dev ||
Guru Punch of the day.
Thursday, 1 August 2013
What Sri Sri said today
July 28, 2013
Bangalore, India
(Below is a continuation of the post What Really Is Sin?)
The ninth chapter of the Bhagavad Gita is called the Raja-Vidhya Yoga or the Raja-Guhya Vidhya (the most supreme and confidential knowledge).
A king (Raja) never makes too much effort for anything. Have you ever seen a king work hard for anything? So, Lord Krishna tells Arjuna that this knowledge is one that can be learnt effortlessly.
He also calls it Raja-Guhya Vidhya, meaning that this knowledge is a great secret.
So, Lord Krishna says to Arjuna, 'Idam tu te guhyatamam pravaksyamy anasuyave. Jnanam vijnana-sahitam yaj jnatva moksyase 'subhat'. (9.1)
He says, ‘O Arjuna! You are Anusuya (one who is without envy and negativity), so I shall tell you a great secret now’.
What does Anusuya mean? One who does not keep finding faults in everything is called Anusuya. Who is called Asuya? One who finds faults in everything around him.
When one's vision is distorted and imperfect, they seem to find fault in everything around them. Such a person who sees faults in everything is Asuya.
So Asuya is one whose vision is distorted. Anusuya is one whose vision is free from distortion and negativity.
For example, if anyone says something to a person who is miserable, he feels that the other person is making fun of him. Have any of you ever had this experience?
Even if you praise a person who is disturbed, they feel that you are making fun of them. Even if you do something good for them, they still find fault in it.
No matter how noble your intention may be with which you do something for such a person, they find some or other fault with it. Such a person who tends to see wrong motives behind any action is called Asuya.
Anusuya means one who does not have such a distorted vision. Such a person knows and accepts things as they are, rather than finding imperfections in them.
So whom can you tell a great secret to? One who is Anusuya.
You can tell a secret only to someone who does not find fault in everything, and whose vision is not distorted.
One who is Asuya will only find fault in everything, no matter where they go. Such people project the negativity of their own mind onto the world outside, and they blame other people for it. One whose vision is distorted cannot see his own imperfections. He just sees imperfections and bad qualities in others. He keeps trying to find more and more faults in the people around. Such a person is Asuya. No one can accept such a person as a disciple because even if a Guru accepts such a person, he will find fault in the Guru's teachings as well.
He will say, ‘Gurudev, you said this, but there is a fault in what you said’.
What can such a person imbibe from his Guru if he blames his Guru and keeps on finding faults in his teachings? He will not be able to receive anything. That is why it is said that you should not see the Guru with the limited vision of the intellect, but rather from the broader vision of knowledge.
So Lord Krishna tells Arjuna, ‘Since your vision is free from distortions, I shall now reveal an astounding secret knowledge to you. By knowing this knowledge, you shall be free from all your sorrow and negativity. This knowledge is both scientific (vijnana) and also transcendental (jnana)’.
Science is knowing ‘What is this?’ (referring to knowledge of the material realm), while spiritual knowledge is knowing ‘Who am I?’ (referring to the transcendental Self-knowledge).
So He says, ‘By knowing this knowledge, you shall be free from all that is inauspicious and there will no more be any negativity around you. No harm or suffering will ever come to you after knowing this’.
In the next verse, He says, 'Raja-vidya raja-guhyam pavitram idam uttamam. Pratyaksavagamam dharmyam su-sukham kartum avyayam'. (9.2)
So He says, ‘I will not tell you anything that you cannot understand or put into practice. There is no use of telling you such a thing’.
Suppose a Guru tells the disciple something and he cannot do it, then what is the use of such a thing? If a Guru keeps giving very high and complex knowledge that the disciple cannot grasp, then what is the use of it?
There was a gentleman who once went to attend a discourse given by a wise sage. When he returned from the session, he told his friends, ‘Oh, the session was wonderful. The saint gave amazing knowledge’.
One of his friends asked him, ‘Tell us, what did the saint speak about?’
The gentleman replied, ‘Oh, the knowledge was of a very high level. It all went over my head’.
So what did he gain by listening to such high knowledge when he could not understand anything. And even if one understands, still there is no use if one cannot put it into practice, and follow it.
This is why Lord Krishna says, ‘I will not tell you anything that you cannot understand and practice. The knowledge I am going to give you is the king (the most supreme) of knowledge. It is the most confidential knowledge, full of secrets; it is the highest and most sacred of all. It is the best’.
If knowledge that is royal and Divine is not sacred, then what is its use? It may be the greatest secret, but if it does not have any sacredness to it, then what can one do with such knowledge?
Usually it is the shameful things that are kept secret. But in India this was never the case. Nothing shameful was ever kept secret. What was kept secret was only that from which great things could be achieved. This is why this knowledge is called Raja-Guhyam: The supreme and the most confidential knowledge.
The specialty of India is that secret and sacred always went hand in hand with each other.
A disciple was given a mantra in a secret manner. The initiation of a disciple into the chanting of the Gayatri Mantra, which is the most sacred of all mantras, was done in secret by whispering the mantra in the ear. The disciple was then told to keep the mantra a secret, so that the mantra would reside in him in the form of a seed. Just like how a seeds is sown under the soil.
When a seed is sown, it is always hidden under the soil, only then does it sprout and grow into a tree. So a secret is like a seed. A secret is that which brings purity to life because of which life becomes wonderful.
So Lord Krishna says that this (knowledge) is the greatest secret of all. It is not a trivial or useless secret. Neither is it something to be ashamed of, or to be kept hidden. It will only bring great joy and benefit to the one who knows it. It bestows the knower with the supreme deliverance from everything.
(Note: The discourse was given in Hindi. Above is a translation of the orginal talk.)
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QnA with Sri Sri
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: When energy goes down you get depressed and when it goes further down suicidal tendencies arise. Through proper breathing exercises, some meditation and through good and loving company energy can go up. Usually when we have some negative things in our minds we share it with somebody and our so called friends confirm our negativity rather than dissolving the negativity. They say, 'Yes what you say is correct and everything is hopeless'. Instead we should raise their level of enthusiasm and energy. It is not only the poor people who commit suicide but those who are rich also commit suicide because it is the state of mind which is responsible for suicidal tendencies. It has nothing to do with material acquisition. I would say that anyone with suicidal tendencies should be led to someone who can teach them meditation, who can make them do some breathing exercises and raise their energy level. And this is possible. Violence against oneself is as bad as violence against someone else. So the world is caught between societal violence on one side and suicidal tendencies on the other side. It is only spirituality which can bring them to the center and which can relieve them from these two extremities. If you find anyone with the slightest suicidal tendency please ask them to do some yoga. Get them around some good company, get them to sing and dance, and make them understand that life is much more than just a few material positions. Life is much more than blame or appreciation from someone. Life is much more than a relationship or a job. The reason for suicide is failure in relationship, failure in job and not being able to achieve what you want to achieve. Life is much more than the small desires that pop up in your consciousness, in your mind. See life from a bigger perspective and engage yourself in some sort of social activity; service activity. Service or seva can keep people sane and keep them out of this mental depression. Mental depression is worse than an economic recession. One has to take responsibility to sail over this and help others around them. The Art of Living is very much involved in working with such people and I would like more people to join and work to eradicate this menace of depression and suicidal tendencies.
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