Q: Guruji, I feel I am a very loving person and I have a lot of love to give. All I ever wanted was to get married and have my own family and children, but it hasn’t happened even after so many years. How can I attract love and marriage to manifest in my life?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Well, I don’t know. Not that there are no loving people, not that there are no single men and women. There are, but may be you are too choosy. If you think you are very loving, you find the other person not so loving. You’ll try to find faults in others. So anyone whom you meet, you think, ‘this is not right, he doesn’t look good’, or, ‘he’s too tall’, or, ‘he is too short’, or, ‘he is bald’, or, ‘he has too much hair’. If you start judging everybody, finding some fault, I don’t know how you will be able to find a husband. Someone asked me the other day, ‘I want to be with the perfect man.’ I said, ‘okay, you will find a perfect man but he will want a perfect woman also, which you are not. So what will you do?’ A perfect man would want a perfect woman. Are you perfect? When you are not perfect, why do you insist on perfection in others? Do you see, sometimes we think in the air. We are not practical and that is why things don’t move towards us. We should move away from over perfectionism. When you have this over-perfectionism, you get annoyed very easily and you get angry for small things. You get upset about nothing at all. You become so emotional. And if you throw your tantrums like that, then nobody would like to be with you. They get scared. So when you are centered, when you are choice less, then everything happens in your way.